Finding Equlibrium

One of my friends celebrated her 30th birthday a few days ago. When talking to her I was curious to know what to expect in my 30th decade. She shared with me her dreams and aspirations and the things she had hoped to accomplish before turning 30, some which did not quite work out as planned.

The war stories from her twenties were full of intrigue and drama; from bad relationships, business decisions, best and worst mistakes, scars, pain, and no doubt lessons that had made her wiser and stronger as a person. I then asked her what she expected her third decade to be like. Her other thirty-something friends had told her that everything calms down and you become more conscientious and deliberate about the things you do and decisions that you make. It is like you finally find a state of equilibrium; where all things are in perfect harmony. I for one cannot vouch for a bit of truth in that.

It is important for every human being to understand and know yourself well.
There is a place in all of us that must remain at constant in order to be able to survive and succeed in this world. Develop an inner strength and confidence by understanding who you are, your strengths, your weaknesses, and your worth. Regardless of any criticism thrown at you, a business deal, marriage or relationship that goes bad, whether you are rich or flat broke. When everything is peeled away from you; your version of who you are on the inside must be so clear to you that you are able to weather any storm.

A lot of people live their lives by a standard that is set by those around them. They are constantly changing themselves, how they act and behave to suit an occasion or individual. If you do not define yourself and get comfortable with who you are; what will you have left when everything in your life is taken away? What happens if you lose your job, your money, your house, your wife, your friends? Would you survive something that big and how far will the rubber band stretch before you bounce back?

Once you know and define your equilibrium, your task will be to find it when you lose it. Not knowing this is the very thing that stops us from achieving and living our potential regardless of what is happening in our lives.